White anti-racist monthly check-in group – group norms

In our first gathering, we reviewed a list of possible group norms and discussed if they met our groups’ needs. The following list is the result of that meeting.

Here are some guidelines* we hope each of us will commit to as we gather to check-in about our anti-racism work:

  • We practice embodying the Beloved Community** we are seeking to create;
  • We all enter this work at different places and support and affirm each other in our own next steps;
  • We bring our full selves to these gatherings as much possible, understanding individuals may need to turn off their video at times;
  • We practice non-hierarchical relationships, we have no official leaders — we are all trusted community members with knowledge and experiences to share;
  • We are committed to each other’s growth and learning
  • We are each responsible for our own learning, boundaries, and participation;
  • We are each responsible for the impact of our words and actions and seek to meet our emotional and learning needs in ways that do not replicate patterns of oppression;
  • We make “I” statements;
  • We expect it to be messy at times; 
  • We encourage each other to sit with discomfort as it arises;
  • We also support the development of our individual emotional intelligence by things like naming the emotions we feel;
  • While we will begin soon after the scheduled start time, we warmly welcome different needs and uses of time; people who arrive after the start time are just as welcome as those who arrive before or “on the dot;”
  • We ask permission before asking someone to share more about themselves or something they have already shared. We respect the answer;
  • We are all free to simply say “pass” rather than sharing verbally; sometimes what we need is silent connection;
  • We trust this community to “call us in” if we notice patterns of white supremacy and oppression;
  • Public resources shared in these groups (i.e. workshops, books, events, podcasts) can be shared in our database https://airtable.com/shreUt6bpxIhIPmHy or elsewhere; however, personal information, any individual’s process, and each other’s journeys we commit to holding confidential in the space in which they were shared; and,
  • This group is a tool to help us stay accountable to our commitment to doing the work of racial justice.

*adapted from Lisa Graustein’s “Racial Justice and the Beloved Community” 

**See the “Beloved Community” section on this page: thekingcenter.org/king-philosophy/ for more information.

Link to introduction post; link to group format draft post.

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